When you become a mother (or parent) I feel it is like perfecting your skills on some crazy Playstation game. And the teenager years are like the trickiest level.
Go with me on this, though I have never played a game on our Playstation – my son won’t let me (!).
Anyway gaming and parenting – you’ve honed and polished your skills and become pretty damn slick at what you do. You can get to the end of whatever the challenge is at lightening speed.
Then you reach a new unknown level, the teenage years hit and you realise that whilst you thought you knew what you were doing, you need a whole new arsenal of expertise fast.
The lows, the worries, the concerns, the fears, the power struggles, the altercations all increase in frequency and ferocity. You hang on “by the skin of your teeth”.
You wonder how it is that your cute compliant (relatively easy) child has become this nearly full-grown adult who rebukes everything you say and do and is just contrary A LOT. You hang on “by the skin of you teeth” – have I said that already??
There are still highs though and the highs are wonderful…even the run of the mill highs and I suppose this is why I am writing this today.
Yesterday was a normal Friday. I was working and my daughter was at home as she has finished her exams. I really feel that she deserves some time for fun as last year she was unable to sit her A-levels as she had glandular fever and was very unwell for months.
So her year off has not been quite the year she had planned – it’s been tough and a challenge – basically treading water and studying for her exams. So I am all for her going out and having fun but when I am working and juggling chores…sometimes it makes me think “hmm”.
Anyway, yesterday she had to go to the dentist and then had a free day…and this is what she did…
She went to the supermarket, made lunch, baked cookies and brownies, cleaned the kitchen, did the ironing, helped with the supper and bought me flowers.
For all the times I wonder if I have not brought my kids up as well as I should have – they almost second guess this thought and dispel my worries in a flash.
I am pretty vocal about the trials and tribulations of parenting and how it never stops stretching and challenging me. And I can been quite critical of my teenagers – so it is only right and proper that I highlight the good things too.
Above are the flowers she bought and everything she made and baked was delicious. Happy mother right here!!